However, in general, mothers and fathers tend to have different play styles — and each style offers a wonderful way to build and maintain a loving, joyful, and affectionate connection with their child. The types of play described below tend to come more naturally to fathers, and it’s often in these kinds of activities that you’ll find dads having fun with their children.
1. Rough-and-tumble play
This is probably the first image that comes to mind when you think of a dad playing with his children. This kind of play often involves a bit of rough and tumble — like wrestling or playful pushing, filled with squeals and laughter that both boys and girls equally enjoy. Why it matters: Although it might look a bit silly, rough play is important for a child’s development as it helps them explore physical boundaries, test their coordination, and improve their balance.
2. Humorous songs and games
Have you ever asked your dad to sing you a lullaby? Chances are, he’ll change the words to the songs or make up his own endings to bedtime stories. Why it matters: Telling stories through lullabies and songs helps children develop language skills, understand characters, and recognise story patterns and sequences. When dads change the words, they’re showing how to think creatively and imaginatively beyond the usual.
3. Messy play
If you need a partner in crime for splashing in mud, water balloon fights or even a game of paintball, dads are the perfect choice. This kind of messy play doesn’t have to stop as your child grows—on the contrary, it can carry on well into their teenage years. Why it matters: Messy play supports the development of motor skills and concentration, encourages problem-solving, and provides a unique sensory experience. Just think back to what it feels like to step barefoot into mud!
4. Building and problem-solving activities
Whether it’s building little houses, boats or trailers, dads are great at encouraging hands-on, practical tasks. If you’re a dad who enjoys making and building things, set up a small workspace with toy tools next to your own so your child can join in. You can also do puzzles together or build houses from tiny Lego bricks—and your tools and workbench can become a playground for learning and creativity. Why it matters: Hands-on play develops spatial awareness, fine motor control, problem-solving, analysis, planning, creativity and hand-eye coordination—which really is quite a lot!
5. Father’s sense of humour
Every dad has his own jokes and a unique sense of humour—usually the kind that makes him laugh the most. In fact, the best dad jokes are often measured by the number of eye-rolls and deep sighs they get from the rest of the family. Why it matters: While it’s mostly about having a laugh, these jokes also show that it’s okay to be self-aware and not take yourself too seriously. They help children learn to look on the bright side and even teach them about the nuances and complexity of language.
6. Sports and adventurous activities
Whether it’s team sports, horse riding, running or exploring the great outdoors, dads often place a strong emphasis on movement, physical development and agility. Both boys and girls benefit from this kind of regular exercise—whether they dream of becoming athletes or simply enjoy running around the park. Why it matters: By setting a positive example, fathers teach their children that physical activity is important—a value they’ll carry with them throughout life. Exercise also supports mental and emotional wellbeing, strengthens bones, boosts immunity, helps maintain a healthy weight, and much more.
The role of a father is extremely important for a child’s development, as the presence of a loving and supportive father brings numerous benefits to the child’s emotional, social, and cognitive growth. However, if the biological father is not present, these same positive effects can be provided by other father figures—such as grandfathers, uncles, godparents, or close family friends—provided they are involved, consistent, and caring in their relationship with the child.
Extract from the brochure “Be a Dad and Grow with Your Child 3+”, RODA 2021.
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